My battle has raged for 3 and half years and exhausted all of my financial resources as well as the resources of many loved ones.. We spent a year from arraignment and incarceration to conviction and ultimately the conviction overturned and the new trial is ready to start. Although this seems an eternity, many defendants spend many months or even years in prison awaiting trial while friends and family try to bring about justice. Relationships have been strained financially as friends and supporters have donated bail funds in excess of $12,000 as well as legal funds totaling so far over $90,000 for both defendants. The constant need for help while people have their own lives and problems to deal with over such a long time has an accumulative effect. The strain to a spouse is constant and can be overwhelming. I have seen more than a few marriages end in divorce as the result of a defendant willing to fight. And I have seen family fortunes depleted in the name of “justice”
Many people say that time is on our side but it turns out that’s not so much the case. In addition to people getting sick, moving away, dying etc… The ability to take on a project such as long term support is commiserate with caring for a sick or dying relative long term. Day after day, going to court. Event after event, meeting after meeting. It never seems to end. People can’t stay for the whole time or come to every meeting so unless a major complex support team is in place, more often than not things break down to some degree. Some of The heaviest casualties of this battlefront are weary volunteers with hearts bigger than their lives. So many times these “angels” burn out and end up feeling dejected and rejected needlessly.
The victim most affected by this war is the spouse of the defendant. Often they endure the raid and stress of their partner‘s arrest and imprisonment. They have to arrange bail as well as holding the family together (assuming cps is not involved.) Then the constant presence of supporters around as the struggle to mount a defense drags on. My wife has been pushed to the brink many times as she is by nature a private person and has been forced to share her life as I do “open book style” for the duration of the trial. One fundraiser to the next, one court date to the next, seldom is the peaceful day anymore. As the weariness grows, feelings become sensitive and tempers often flare. Many have walked away, unwilling to deal with the pressure. Meanwhile, our adversaries are just doing their job on our dime. That’s just the reality.